Fathers, Sons, and Pornography

sonsby John Ellis

If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.” Matthew 5:29-30

Many in my generation are averse to standards, to rules. Specifically, but not exclusively, those of us who were raised in strict, conservative, fundamentalist Christian homes are often averse to standards. Many of us believe that holding to standards indicates some level of legalism.

We grew up being taught that almost all forms of pop music are sinful and dishonoring to our holy God, especially rock, pop, hip-hop, and most forms of country-western music. Movie theatres were verboten. In fact, in my family, movies rated PG and above were off limits even at home. Rules were stacked upon rules, at least it felt that way. As my generation entered adulthood, many of us “discovered” grace and cast off the “legalism” of our parents.

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Dads Are Parents, Not Babysitters


by John Ellis

For the longest time, TV shows that rely on the bungling dad trope didn’t bother me. I guess, on one level, they still don’t. I mean, I think that fathers as goofballs isn’t necessarily bad. I love making my kids laugh, and I love goofing off with them. But, on the flipside, I also want to make sure that my children view me as much of a parent as their mom, and as much of a capable parent as their mom. TV shows often don’t present a nuanced image of dads, and unfortunately the bungling dad trope has spilled over into broader society. Many people seem to believe that dads are lost as parents without moms. To that end, I’m no longer a fan of TV shows that portray dads as incapable compared to moms.   

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