Holiness Should Not be Self-Serving: The Purity Culture’s Sins


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The Purity Culture is not monolithic. There were/are faithful Christians within the purity movement/culture that genuinely want(ed) to help train youth to pursue godliness. However, good intentions do not excuse poor teaching, much less excuse outright sinful teaching. On the flip-side, whatever missteps or even sins that were committed within the movement does not excuse any person’s rebellion against God. One day, upon the return of King Jesus, no one will be able to say, “It’s not my fault that I didn’t repent of my sins and place my faith in Jesus. It’s the purity culture’s fault.” 

by John Ellis

Without any trace of shame, my friend turned on his barstool, looked me in the eyes and said, “I regret not having had sex before I got married. I only know what it’s like to have sex with one woman and feel like I’m missing out.”

In the aftermath of his confession, as I attempted to explain what was wrong with his thought process, I could tell he wasn’t listening. Not that it would’ve made a difference if he had heard me. His almost total worship of the god of Sex had consumed him, and his liturgy of lust was unassailable.

A couple of years later, an affair brought his marriage to an end.

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Aimee Byrd Asks About Men and Women ‘Why Can’t We Be Friends?’

aimee byrdby John Ellis

While working as a bartender at a large nightclub in Pensacola, FL, one of the bouncers asked me if I wanted to join him and several of our other male coworkers the next day when they visited the campus of the local Christian fundamentalist college. Asking why in the world they would want to do that, I was stunned by his answer.

“The girls there dress incredibly sexy!” he blurted out.

Dress sexy? That made very little sense to me. Like most Christian fundamentalist colleges, the dress code was strict and allowed for very little flaunting of flesh. Sexy was a descriptor that I never thought I would hear describe the clothes of the females on that campus. Especially not from guys who worked in a place where semi-nudity was a constant and where actual nudity was not uncommon. Sex permeated our work. By way of one example, the bouncers had been instructed to not be in too big of a hurry to intervene when customers engaged in public sex. The other customers enjoyed the show, after all.

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Why Sex Outside of Marriage Is a Sin

 

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by John Ellis

Rebecca was alternately excited and mystified by the beautiful alabaster box her missionary grandmother had sent for her 17th birthday. Written in her grandmother’s familiar, shaky hand, the accompanying note added to the mystery, “Remember, dear, this can only ever be opened once.”

Gently placing the alabaster box on her bed side table, Rebecca puzzled over the meaning of her grandmother’s note while admiring the delicate beauty and intricate patterns of the alabaster box. Assuming it contained a precious perfume or spice, Rebecca determined to preserve the alabaster box intact for a special day.

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Teen Vogue Preys on Children

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by John Ellis

“Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.” Romans 1:24-25

I don’t think that I’ve agonized over whether to share one of my articles or not as much as I have over my latest PJ Media article. It’s a disgusting article (by necessity) warning parents about a depraved and predatory publication. Sin is ugly. Apart from the knowledge that God is Sovereign, rebellion against our Holy Creator can be disgustingly terrifying when it is allowed to raise its ugly head in the full wilting of its depravity. Interacting with it isn’t easy, and lends itself to inadvertently causing others to stumble, or even yourself. My prayer is that my article will not cause any to stumble, but will cause all who read it to purpose in their heart to strive even harder to protect children from the snare of the devil and his followers. My prayer is also that we adults will repent of our own engagement with depravity that we justify in the name of entertainment and “Christian liberty.”

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